A potential response?
Aug. 1st, 2006 06:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bicrimHere is my first draft of a response to my BIL regarding the last post and his asking us not to NIP at his wedding.
Dear Chris,
Thanks for sending the logistics for the wedding weekend. We both remember how stressful the weeks leading up to the big day are and hope you two are not too stressed out. Our plan is to come on Friday, so we will see you then.
In regards to the breastfeeding, it seems like you have put a lot of thought into finding private places for babycare, and we appriciate that. We also understand the pressures of inlaws, and appriciate that you are worried that some family members may be shocked or offended to see a baby nursing. That is stress that you don't need on your wedding day!
Here is what we will do. First of all, of course we will take Elliot out of the church or any other place if he is being disruptive. We would do that at any event. Second, we will use the rooms you have indicated for changing him and for feeding him when he needs to eat and will be nursing for any length of time. This is to his benefit, as he is easily distracted by people and quiet is good for eating.
However, he also nurses for comfort quite a bit. These are times in which he feels stressed, afraid, or bored, all of which are likely to happen when in a strange place and surrounded by people he doesn't know. In these times, he only nurses for a few seconds or minutes. If I were to try to leave each and every time he asked for nursing, I would spend all my time away from the event. I'm sure this is not what you were thinking.
I am planning on wearing a nursing dress, and will make an effort to be extra discreet during the times Elliot needs a moment of comfort. I'm sure no one would be offended by a parent using a pacifier or a bottle to calm their child, and I'm sure no one will even notice my nursing Elliot.
This is your big day, and it is important to us that we be with you to celebrate. We try to always be conscienscious parents and to meet Elliot's needs while not disrupting others. We will keep your concerns in mind during the weekend, and I'm sure it will all be fine for everyone!
Love, Kristin, David, and Elliot
--What do you all think?
Dear Chris,
Thanks for sending the logistics for the wedding weekend. We both remember how stressful the weeks leading up to the big day are and hope you two are not too stressed out. Our plan is to come on Friday, so we will see you then.
In regards to the breastfeeding, it seems like you have put a lot of thought into finding private places for babycare, and we appriciate that. We also understand the pressures of inlaws, and appriciate that you are worried that some family members may be shocked or offended to see a baby nursing. That is stress that you don't need on your wedding day!
Here is what we will do. First of all, of course we will take Elliot out of the church or any other place if he is being disruptive. We would do that at any event. Second, we will use the rooms you have indicated for changing him and for feeding him when he needs to eat and will be nursing for any length of time. This is to his benefit, as he is easily distracted by people and quiet is good for eating.
However, he also nurses for comfort quite a bit. These are times in which he feels stressed, afraid, or bored, all of which are likely to happen when in a strange place and surrounded by people he doesn't know. In these times, he only nurses for a few seconds or minutes. If I were to try to leave each and every time he asked for nursing, I would spend all my time away from the event. I'm sure this is not what you were thinking.
I am planning on wearing a nursing dress, and will make an effort to be extra discreet during the times Elliot needs a moment of comfort. I'm sure no one would be offended by a parent using a pacifier or a bottle to calm their child, and I'm sure no one will even notice my nursing Elliot.
This is your big day, and it is important to us that we be with you to celebrate. We try to always be conscienscious parents and to meet Elliot's needs while not disrupting others. We will keep your concerns in mind during the weekend, and I'm sure it will all be fine for everyone!
Love, Kristin, David, and Elliot
--What do you all think?
