Asked not to NIP...
Aug. 1st, 2006 05:13 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bicrimSo, I just got this email from my BIL, who is getting married in two weeks:
Also with regards to the events on both days, I have a big favor to ask of you
> and Kristin. I know that you guys bringing up Elliot with breastfeeding as an
> important part of his young life and personally I think that is great. Kristin
> is not shy about breastfeeding Elliot wherever and whenever the need arises
and
> again I personally do not see a problem with that. However, Lizzie's immediate
> family and her extended family are extremely conservative. So at the church on
> both days, if Kristin needs to feed Elliot, there is a very nice family room
at
> the entrance of the church where breastfeeding / changing could be done. If he
> gets cranky / crying during the actual ceremony she could bring him there
also.
> At the rehearsal dinner there is a deck located next to the room where we will
> be eating, and this area would be good for feedings / changings as well. At
The
> Bellport Country Club we have decided to not really use the bridal suite for
> ourselves, but to use the bridal suite for any baby related activities
> throughout the night - feedings/changings etc. . Lizzie's sister Kristin also
> has a small child (8 months) and she will be using these areas as well on
these
> days. Again, I hope that you and Kristin could do me this huge favor and break
> from your usual routine, and make these small changes to help our day so that
> much smoother.
What do you all think about this? I think it sucks that people see BF as different from sticking a paci or a bottle in a kid's mouth, which I bet would be OK with her "conservative" family. Part of me says it's their wedding and I should not make waves, most of me says fuck that shit. I will of course take the baby out of the church if he is fussy. I will of course use the room to change him and to feed him if he needs quiet. But I will not tell my baby that he can't have boobie when he needs it so that a bunch a prudes can pretend I don't breastfeed. I will be wearing a very discreet nursing dress. What else can I do, to make them happy and stay true to myself and my son? Advice requested!
Also with regards to the events on both days, I have a big favor to ask of you
> and Kristin. I know that you guys bringing up Elliot with breastfeeding as an
> important part of his young life and personally I think that is great. Kristin
> is not shy about breastfeeding Elliot wherever and whenever the need arises
and
> again I personally do not see a problem with that. However, Lizzie's immediate
> family and her extended family are extremely conservative. So at the church on
> both days, if Kristin needs to feed Elliot, there is a very nice family room
at
> the entrance of the church where breastfeeding / changing could be done. If he
> gets cranky / crying during the actual ceremony she could bring him there
also.
> At the rehearsal dinner there is a deck located next to the room where we will
> be eating, and this area would be good for feedings / changings as well. At
The
> Bellport Country Club we have decided to not really use the bridal suite for
> ourselves, but to use the bridal suite for any baby related activities
> throughout the night - feedings/changings etc. . Lizzie's sister Kristin also
> has a small child (8 months) and she will be using these areas as well on
these
> days. Again, I hope that you and Kristin could do me this huge favor and break
> from your usual routine, and make these small changes to help our day so that
> much smoother.
What do you all think about this? I think it sucks that people see BF as different from sticking a paci or a bottle in a kid's mouth, which I bet would be OK with her "conservative" family. Part of me says it's their wedding and I should not make waves, most of me says fuck that shit. I will of course take the baby out of the church if he is fussy. I will of course use the room to change him and to feed him if he needs quiet. But I will not tell my baby that he can't have boobie when he needs it so that a bunch a prudes can pretend I don't breastfeed. I will be wearing a very discreet nursing dress. What else can I do, to make them happy and stay true to myself and my son? Advice requested!
